How is it possible to have 2 kids with such different personalities? The third we are waiting for his to emerge.....but for our oldest 2 kids they are worlds apart.
The latest example of this was last night we took our new 'soft top' surfboard down the beach for a sunset surf lesson with the kids. The younger boy couldn't get enough of the waves and the surf board and even though he can't swim, can ride a stand-up surfboard, and doesn't mind the odd wipeout. The oldest boy on the other hand is a bit of a perfectionist and doesn't like to try anything till he knows he can do it, and be great at it! This often leaves him unwilling to try anything new, till he has assessed the activity and processed mentally the exact best way to complete the new skill. This is why it suprised us when he piped up that he would like a turn, just not too far out. So off he went....and what do you know, it wasn't perfect (unless he was trying to do the perfect wipeout!) In raged our boy, mad as anything that he couldn't do it, refusing to go anywhere near the ocean or surfboard EVER AGAIN! We tried to explain that although it may take a few more times to perfect it and the best thing was that he had a go, he felt like a failure, and it was so sad to see. Today his confidence is still a little bruised, and we are not even allowed to mention the word 'surfing'. In light of this, today will be spent doing things he is good at to build up his confidence up again.
The challenge is to foster and grow each child, despite their differences. Always tackling the same activity in 2 different ways; so that they both develop, grow, have fun and are not damaged along the way!
The latest example of this was last night we took our new 'soft top' surfboard down the beach for a sunset surf lesson with the kids. The younger boy couldn't get enough of the waves and the surf board and even though he can't swim, can ride a stand-up surfboard, and doesn't mind the odd wipeout. The oldest boy on the other hand is a bit of a perfectionist and doesn't like to try anything till he knows he can do it, and be great at it! This often leaves him unwilling to try anything new, till he has assessed the activity and processed mentally the exact best way to complete the new skill. This is why it suprised us when he piped up that he would like a turn, just not too far out. So off he went....and what do you know, it wasn't perfect (unless he was trying to do the perfect wipeout!) In raged our boy, mad as anything that he couldn't do it, refusing to go anywhere near the ocean or surfboard EVER AGAIN! We tried to explain that although it may take a few more times to perfect it and the best thing was that he had a go, he felt like a failure, and it was so sad to see. Today his confidence is still a little bruised, and we are not even allowed to mention the word 'surfing'. In light of this, today will be spent doing things he is good at to build up his confidence up again.
The challenge is to foster and grow each child, despite their differences. Always tackling the same activity in 2 different ways; so that they both develop, grow, have fun and are not damaged along the way!